I had a huge typo in the headline of my last newsletter and I could say “nobody’s perfect” but that’s punk-ass and damn I’m sure trying to be perfect.
Every day. Like every single freaking day, I’m trying to do everything right all the time. And I’m failing. Every day.
Like my man Bruce Springsteen sings:
“Now look at me baby
Struggling to do everything right
And then it all falls apart
When out go the lights.”
Except I fail with the lights on, also. And I’ve learned (finally) to be okay with that … but it’s taken a while. It doesn’t have to take you as long.
Failing Isn’t the Scary Thing
My point here is that I’m writing this on a Tuesday night and I already had one big screw-up for the week and there are a bunch more mistakes coming. Because that’s how life is, even when you’re trying to be perfect. And if you’re not making mistakes? You’re not really trying. Doing anything means you will have marks. Scars, even.
And if you don’t have wounds and regrets? Then you haven’t done shit. You’ve never really stepped up to the line and thrown your heart across it for the world to see. And you might want to think about trying harder because there’s a sweetness in full and total effort alone that will stun you – a deliciousness so separate from any result that it will knock you down with the power and grace of it. And there’s a satiety that is only known to those who bury themselves in effort like that.
Redefining What Winning Means
My point here is that we are all fuck-ups. Every single last one of us. We have all bungled. We have all failed. We have all hurt. Repeatedly. And for prolonged periods.
And we’ll all do it again tomorrow. Try. Fail. Try. Fail. Try. Fail. In gyms and in garages. On tracks and on trails. In work and in love.
Winners aren’t people who never hit the floor. Winners are people who didn’t stay there.
So get out there and lay it all on the line. Like the Japanese say, “Fall seven times, get up eight.”
And remember, no matter what, you don’t suck as much as you think you do.
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